Embracing the Cultural Norms of Children: Lessons from Paris

Last summer, I set off on a journey to Europe, leaving behind the vast landscapes of Texas for the bustling streets of Paris. It was an adventure filled with excitement and new experiences, but one particular encounter at a train station left an indelible mark on my perspective, especially regarding my interactions with small children. 

As my best friend Kari and I navigated the corridors of a Parisian train station, we found ourselves a bit lost and disoriented. In a moment of uncertainty, Kari, with admirable courage, approached a station attendant for directions. However, her lack of familiarity with the French language and the attendant's impatient demeanor led to a brief, albeit instructive, exchange.The attendant, in a tone tinged with annoyance, simply uttered, "Bonjour." Undeterred by her nerves, Kari proceeded with her inquiries without the customary greeting, prompting the attendant to repeat, more firmly this time, "Bonjour." It was a subtle reminder of the importance of respecting cultural norms, even in the simplest of interactions.

Throughout our remaining time in France, we made it a point to adhere to local customs, including the essential "Bonjour" before any interaction. The good reminder made a world of difference, not only in our communication but also in our appreciation for the rich tapestry of cultures around us. This lesson in cultural sensitivity resonated deeply with me as a caregiver and facilitator of play for small children.

I embarked on my journey as a, “teacher,’ in a childcare center. Initially, I approached my role with the assumption my methods were universal, failing to recognize the unique cultural norms of childhood. I enforced structured activities like "Circle Time" and imposed arbitrary rules on sharing, disrupting the natural flow of play without providing adequate explanations. In doing so, I inadvertently disregarded the autonomy and individuality of each child, completely disrespecting their culture, much like Kari's initial oversight in Paris. 

It wasn't until I witnessed a child in the midst of a meltdown, after I asked them to share, when I realized the gravity of my approach. Instead of respecting their emotions and allowing them the space to express themselves, I intruded upon their personal boundaries, offering hollow reassurances by telling them they were okay without addressing the root cause of their distress. 

Reflecting on my experiences in Paris and in the classroom, I came to understand childhood is a sacred realm, distinct from the adult world, yet deserving of equal reverence. Just as we honor the cultural traditions of foreign lands when we travel, it is imperative we extend the same respect to the culture of childhood. 

This realization transformed my approach to early childhood education. I began to embrace a more child-centered philosophy, prioritizing play, empathy, communication, and respect for each child's unique journey of discovery. I abandoned rigid structures in favor of flexible environments fostering creativity, autonomy, and collaboration.

In essence, my trip to Paris taught me a life-changing lesson: the importance of embracing and respecting the cultural norms of children. Just as Kari and I learned to say "Bonjour" before venturing into the vibrant streets of Paris, so too must we approach early childhood education with humility, empathy, and an unwavering commitment to honoring the magic of childhood.